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Monday grump

Everyone has a bad day, every once in a while, right?  I mean – a day that goes down in the History books as mean, unmentionable, disastrous, dastardly?  don’t they?   I was on my way to that day this Monday morning.  My heart was on a downward trend, and my mouth was divulging my heart’s ugly little secret.  It was not pretty I tell you.

After my work out on the elliptical, which usually refreshes my mood, I was still in a funk.  Breakfast was on the table when I found out from my beloved dears that they did not want to eat what I had made.  I was about to have a temper tantrum or melt into a puddle of tears because of it.  Sometimes I do not like Monday mornings.

But, right there, in that unfortunate moment… there was a quiet voice that kept it all at bay.

“Why don’t You check out what I prepared for you this morning?”

There, for my consumption, on my least of favorite Monday mornings, He had something for me.  I went to the Scripture for my breakfast.  All I had to do was digest it and let sink into my heart for a minute or two.

11 Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.

12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

So often, I set out to conquer the world, educate my children, love my husband, be the best housewife and piano teacher ever – without HIS joy overflowing from my heart.  In that condition, I am rendered completely ineffective.  The very minute that I realized He was missing from the equation this morning, my demeanor changed.

The Holy Spirit has the power to renew my countenance and my actions, by giving me a willing spirit.  As long as He is with me, He is my guide and my strength – a very present help – but I must acknowledge His place in my life.  From the inside out, once again I am made new by the power of His Word.

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for whispering to me in the middle of my grumpies.  I don’t deserve how graciously you rescue me from myself over and over again.  Help me to be the women you’ve called me to be today, living and breathing by the power of your Spirit.  Amen.

Thankfully, my Monday morning is restored to its rightful place as a bright start to my week.  And with His help, we will keep it that way!

md

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New and fresh

Well, things are shaping up here!  I am about to begin transferring many of my  previous stories and thoughts…  Its so scary to me.  I never dreamed I’d be here.  On this road.  And the only thing I can think of to do is pray.

Dear Heavenly Father,

Please lead me.  I have no idea what I’m doing.  I only know that You want me to encourage others. Please use the ideas that you’ve given me to speak to someone.  don’t let me get in the way.  This all means absolutely nothing except for the fact that You are in it.

Be my nerve.  Keep me honest.  Give me wisdom for this new journey.

I love you.

Amen.

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Hello world!

I am very excited to be embarking on this journey…  I’m not sure I feel at home yet after writing “notes” on facebook for so long…  But, it will come.

More to follow.  I hope.

md

in my kitchen

Round Canister, Square Cabinet

I found myself frustrated with my kitchen this past weekend.  I spend a lot of time there and it is small, by some standards tiny.   A day doesn’t pass that I don’t try to find a way to use the space more effectively.  This is where I run into trouble…  There is a cabinet that hangs directly above my stove and it is the bane of my culinary existence…  let me explain.

This cabinet is where I store my baking supplies – flour, sugar, baking soda, cornmeal…  you get the idea.  The big ticket items are in canisters -and herein lies the problem.  Round vessels in very angular spaces.   Have you ever noticed how hard it is to find square canisters?  Believe me, I’ve been looking for something to fit snuggly into my cabinets and it just seems impossible…  never mind that I do tend to be a bit picky…

More and more I find a lot in common with those canisters.  I am a round vessel in a 90 degree angle kind of world.  As a believer I find fewer spaces where I fit.  What God has called me to be, how He has made me and how He wants me to live,  all make me into a unique creature. But, it means living as a being that doesn’t belong anywhere, it seems.

Often I find myself trying to figure out how to be a part of this earth- if I could just be a bit more square. Surely it would be more comfortable, an easier life.  Then I could excuse the idolatry in my heart when I choose to worship something above Him. There are multitudes of things I find easier to put first ; I’m too embarrassed to even admit them all.  I wouldn’t need to forgive those who wrong me, or ask for forgiveness when I’ve wronged someone else. Let me just wallow in bitterness – that is far more comfortable.   There wouldn’t be any use in holding my tongue when I feel like gossiping, or lashing out.  No self control needed, just all the shopping and eating I want…

But this is not what the Heavenly Father desires…

In fact, the life I’ve chosen, of following Christ means being more like Him.  Moving towards Him means stepping farther and farther away from the easier, more comfortable earthly kind of life.  The more He changes me into the vessel He is creating, the less likely I am to fit into the surroundings of this world.

Titus 2:11-14 says:

For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.

Becoming His creation is beyond anything anyone could possibly offer in this world. This alone brings hope;  its a far better hope; its a heavenly hope that someday I will be with Him.  It will be a place that fits perfectly for those who are His new creation.  I can’t help but be encouraged by the words from Titus!  I can go on living a curvy, round life in an angular world.

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This is gonna hurt a little…

I’m sitting here with sweet girl Emily.  She’s resting on the couch after having three teeth extracted by our oral surgeon.  I say “our” because this is her second round of teeth pulling, with more planned in the not-so-distant future, so he is officially “ours.”  At any rate, I am so proud of her; there were no tears or complaining.  She is definitely a brave eight year old.

Just about an hour and a half ago we were sitting in the car, before going into the office for the procedure.  Emily was a little shaky and wanted me to hold her hand as we walked into the building.  Of course I obliged her.  After all, how many more times will she want me to hold her hand in public?

We discussed what was going to happen again – which teeth? how long will it take? and is there root beer at home for when this is over?   I told her as we sat in the waiting room, “You know, this is going to hurt a bit, just like last time, right?  But, I’ll be here when you come out – and it will feel better pretty quick…in a day or two…” my voice sort of drifted off a bit, because it didn’t sound very comforting the way it came out…

As Emily’s mom, I was the one that decided when the appointment would be.  Her dad and I chose to have the procedure done for her own dental good.   Someday it will make the whole situation easier when its time for braces and other dental work she needs to have done.  As she walked down the hall with the nurse to have the teeth pulled, I felt a bit bad – I mean, I was the one choosing this pain for her.  “Easier” didn’t seem so important anymore…

I myself have had teeth pulled – I know how it feels.

And I thought about it for the next forty-five minutes.  God has not promised us a life free of pain.  In fact, there are times that He allows terrible pain because He knows that the outcome will be for our good.   Thinking of how much I love my daughter, and how hard it was to watch her go through this comparatively little pain today, I know it must be hard for the Heavenly Father to allow pain in our lives.

Through personal experience, I also know this: it is in those moments of suffering that I have drawn closer to Him, allowing Him to calm my fears and comfort me during sorrow.  And He is a most kind and gentle care-giver.  He understands and  knows – He has felt the pain that I have felt and knows exactly how to sooth my soul.    This is His promise.

Isaiah 53:4&5 is a loving and significant reminder for me, for days like today and even the most difficult of days:

“Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.”

With Emily I know the outcome – we are on a path to beautiful and healthy teeth.  In other life-circumstances, even though He knows the outcome, I’m not always able to see how things will turn out here on earth.  But, I do know this:  He loves me. He will walk the road of pain and suffering with me.  While there may be pain along the way,  I can be sure that the Heavenly Father will be a constant companion who is able to bring sweet peace for the journey.

md

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third grade woes…

My daughter Emily and I began our journey through third grade last week.  She is doing well, so far and we are enjoying the time together.  She is my first born child so its all very new and fresh.  I’ve never had an eight year old before.  I find myself so grateful each day for each little moment.  Even when the spelling words are “too hard” or the subtraction review will “take too long,” we are finding the grace to work through each question.

This morning I realized that Emily will soon be 9.  As we did our math worksheets, one of the questions was 18 – 9.  The answer is, of course, 9.  When she answered that particular question a little alarm went off in my mind… ding ding ding ding ding ding ding….  I had to step away from the table and catch my breath.

I sat down on my  bed and tried to re-do the math in my head.  Surely it can’t be – I’m already almost half way through my time at home with Emily.  Half way through her life spent in our house.  Nine down, nine to go, presuming she goes to college or decides to be independent.   Its almost surreal… certainly unbelievable.  Completely unacceptable.

I am that mom who would love for my children to stay little. I can’t imagine Emily being ready for college, taking care of herself, driving, making her own decisions.  And this is probably the crux of the matter – I am a bit of a control freak.  How can I be sure that she’ll be okay?  What if she’s too far away and I can’t help her?  What if she needs something that I can’t provide?  Of course I know the answer in my head, but its having a hard time making its way to my heart.  I think there’s a big lump in my throat that’s blocking the path…

God will provide for her, He will care for her, His angels will protect her.  And, far better than I ever could, I might add.  But when the reality of letting go inches closer, I have a hard time loosening my grip.

“She’s mine, isn’t she?  I mean, You gave her to me to take care of…didn’t you?”

and He says, “No, no she’s mine.  I have loved her sacrificially more than you are humanly able.  and I        promise I will provide for her and care for her and protect her…

“You promise, right?”  (what a ridiculous question… I am so hard headed)

“I have done all of these things for you, probably more than you will ever know this side of Heaven.               “Trust me, I will do the same for Emily. ”

In the quiet of this moment, I found the sweet relief of trusting Him. He is able to fulfill the plans for my daughter far above my own efforts,  my own ability.   It is here that I can rest.  It is here that my grasp  can begin to lessen, just a bit.

I’m reminded of a song that we sing at church once in a while:

(and I’m including all of the words because these words lift my heart)

“Jesus I am resting, resting In the Joy of what Thou art; I am finding out the greatness Of Thy loving heart.

Thou hast bid me gaze upon Thee, And Thy beauty fills my soul, For by Thy transforming power Thou hast made me whole.

Chorus: Jesus, I am resting, resting In the joy of what Thou art; I am finding out the greatness Of Thy loving heart.

O how great Thy loving kindness. Vaster, broader than the sea! O how marvellous Thy goodness, Lavished all on me! Yes, I rest in Thee, Beloved, Know Thy certainty of promise, And have made it mine.

Simply trusting Thee, Lord Jesus, I behold Thee as Thou art, And Thy love, so pure, so changeless, Satisfies my heart; Satisfies its deepest longings, Meets supplies its every need, Compasseth me round with blessings; Thine is love indeed!

Ever lift Thy face upon me, As I work and wait for Thee; Resting ‘neath Thy smile, Lord Jesus, Earth’s dark shadows flee. Brightness of my Father’s glory, Sunshine of my Father’s face, Keep me ever trusting, resting; Fill me with Thy grace.”

Heavenly Father, May I rest in you and your unfailing promises.  At the crossroads of change or uncertainty let me look for you, first.  Thank you for this loving kindness that you daily show to me and my family – it is vaster and broader than the sea.  Though I may grow a bit anxious some times, keep my heart tethered to you with trust.  amen

Our seventh day of third grade finished up beautifully…  I can only hope fourth grade will go so well!

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parking garage

Today I stopped by my husband’s place of work to trade cars with him. We met up and he took the van to park it, while I sat in his Sentra, on the first floor of the parking garage. Its not that long ago that this particular place, downtown, was also my place of employment. The parking garage was familiar to me because it was where he and I parked together almost every day for close to three years.

Three years ago I was absolutely one of the most grateful women alive because God had blessed me to be able to stay at home with my children. It was what I had prayed for. No, begged for. He had heard my cry and answered, “Yes.”

And its not because my employment was miserable that I had the desire to be home. I enjoyed the people. I had made friends and the job itself wasn’t so bad – I could accomplish what was needed. But – it wasn’t my calling. And when I use the word “calling” – I mean that gut wrenching, all encompassing desire for a particular vocation – a holy desire planted by the Spirit. My desire to be a home maker, at home, with my children was from the Lord.

As I spent days in my cubicle waiting for it to come to pass, I dreamed of how it would be. I longed to be nurturing and creative, loving and warm with my children every day. I couldn’t wait for my home to have the aroma of freshly baked chocolate chip cookies. To have dinner ready for my husband when he got home from a long day at work – maybe a cold glass of sweet tea to wet his whistle – was top priority. These were my hopes.

Three years have come and gone but it feels like I just began my journey home a few weeks ago. Sitting in the parking garage today really gave me a reality check. Am I fulfilling my calling? If it were strictly about the chocolate chip cookies, I would definitely be hitting the mark. But its not.

As I pulled out of the parking garage and drove home, I thought. When I arrived at the house and sat at the table for an afternoon of school planning, my heart was a bit numb. I thought some more.

I prayed.

“Lord, am I managing? Am I even coming close to doing what you have called me to do?”

“No,” He said, “But you don’t have to. Remain in me.”

“I’m not creative, I’m not nurturing, I’m not…” I began listing my lack of qualifications for the job.

“But, I am. And you, my child, have been created in my image,” the Heavenly Father reminded me.

*sigh*

“I need to plan my school year for Emily today… will You help me?”

“Daughter, I was with you in the parking garage three years ago and today too. Don’t you know that I will help you this year?”

*tears*

John 15 : 4&5 “Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”

My afternoon was blessed with many plans, beautiful creativity and thoughts for my daughter that were from His heart. There is nothing more wonderful than His personal assuring presence in my life. Its my prayer that we do nothing apart from Him this year : fulfilling His calling with His help.

What else could I ask for? Well, maybe some chocolate chip cookies…

green thumb envy...

water for a friend

It goes without saying that I need to water my flower garden on a regular basis. Even as a fledgling gardener, I am aware of this. I try to water in the evenings, sometimes with Miracle Gro, sometimes without – but, regularly they get a long slow drink of water.

Often my dahlias look droopy and dehydrated in the mid afternoon June heat. The heat weighs them down and I worry that they won’t make it. In a strange way, these flowers have become my companions, my friends. I know their leaves, I’ve watched how some perk up “just so” when they are watered. I know where their buds are and where I’ve cut their first blooms. When I see them looking so forlorn, its almost heartbreaking.

Would you believe me if I told you I have a lot in common with these flowers? At times my heart is parched, even scorched in the heat. I’m dehydrated, so much that my heart feels blistered and cracked. Life has a way of delivering complications that hang me out to dry while all moisture evaporates from my very insides.

But its at times like this when there is only one solution. Showers from heaven – a rain that can come only from the Holy Spirit. This is the way to survive the heat. His water brings rejuvenation and new life. It seems He watches, as my heart’s gardener. He comes with a deep drink of water for my heart at just the right time. He knows the places in my heart where fruit is blossoming, how my soul is revived by his love and affection. I am cared for by this Master gardener, drenched in His life giving flow.

When I think of it like this, it binds my heart to His in a whole new way. He is not just a Majestic, omniscient, omnipresent God – He cares for me, just as I gently care for my flowers. Although, he does a much better job than I do. I can confidently say, He is my friend. And He promises a drink when I need it!

There’s an old hymn that reminds me of His promise for refreshment!

Showers of Blessing

There shall be showers of blessing:

This is the promise of love;

There shall be seasons refreshing,

Sent from the Savior above.

Showers of blessing,

Showers of blessing we need:

Mercy-drops round us are falling,

But for the showers we plead.

There shall be showers of blessing,

Precious reviving again;

Over the hills and the valleys,

Sound of abundance of rain.

There shall be showers of blessing;

Send them upon us, O Lord;

Grant to us now a refreshing,

Come, and now honor Thy Word.

green thumb envy...

Waiting…

A watched pot never boils. That’s a familiar truth I know from first-hand experience. As a child I was never good at patience. If we were expecting company, I was at the window, watching. Waiting always seemed to take forever.

I’m relearning the lesson. Recently we made a new flower bed and planted dahlia tubers, in hopes of having some beautiful flowers in a while. Now, I know that flowers aren’t going to sprout up over night. It takes sunshine and water, in general, good care to see them come up out of the soil. No matter what I know in my head, every time that I leave my house, I double check for any sign of life – just the tiniest of sprouts – that’s all I’m hoping for. But, to no avail.

These dahlias are on their own schedule and I suppose I should stop watching.

A few weeks ago I experienced this from a different perspective. It was the week before Easter. I love the Easter holiday and everything that is celebrates and embodies: Joy, Resurrection and everlasting Life. Even though I tried, it seemed like my heart could not engage. I thought I had cared for my heart’s garden – it seemed like it was ready for a robust joy to spring up. But, it didn’t, at least not in the way I expected. Where was my child-like enthusiasm? Where was the party?

Sometimes when I watch, I’m looking for the wrong thing.

Over the weeks since Easter, I’ve wondered, I’ve prayed and I’ve kept looking. And, I found the answer in my car. Well, it came to me while I was in the car. I was listening to some music and the words began to move me. As I continued to take it in, my heart began to swell, so full that I thought it was going to explode. It was as though the song began to paint my heart’s garden with bright, bold colors, hues of the rainbow. It was beautiful. It was surreal. It was heavenly. And I realized – this was the Easter celebration I had been waiting for.

The song was “The Good Confession” from Andrew Peterson’s “Resurrection Letters” – it reminded me of my own life, my own heart, my own choice to Believe in Jesus Christ.

Its amazing how God can use whatever he choses to bring me to a new place, a new posture. And He does it in His own timing – He is not bound by my calendar, by holidays or my expectations. I am so thankful that He has planted and is growing the most beautiful garden in my own heart.

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The Good Confession:

“When I was a boy just nine years old I heard the call and came.

They buried me beneath the water then I rose again.

Well you know my dad was a preacher man.

I walked the aisle and I took his hand.

He said “Son just do the best you can and say the words :

‘I believe he is the Christ the Son of the living God.”

Through the years I barely fell; I mostly dove right in.

I drank so deep from the shallow well only to thirst again.

Well I sang the hymns at the summer camp then I rocked and rolled with a lousy band

till I heard a song that took my hand and led me home.

And I believe he is the Christ Son of the living God.

All I know is that I was blind but now I see that though I kick and scream

Love is leading me.

And every step of the way his grace is making me; with every breath I breathe

he is saving me. And I believe.

So when my body’s weak and the day is long, when I feel my faith is all but gone

I’ll remember when I sing this song that I believe. I believe he is the Christ

Son of the living God my Lord my Savior. Oh hosanna I believe. ”

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And yes, I do believe! What other response can there be to a risen Savior, in the midst of my long awaited celebration?

Hallelujah and Amen!

in my kitchen

New Favorite pt.1

I’m feeling a little unfaithful – I’ve always used the same incredible “scratch” brownie recipe and its done right by me. Its a comfortable, reliable old friend. But tonight, I gave this new one a try and… it was fantastic! Brownies from scratch are ALWAYS worth the effort!

Ingredients:
5 ounces (140 grams) semisweet or bittersweet chocolate, chopped
1/2 cup (1 stick) (113 grams) unsalted butter, cut into pieces
2 tablespoons (15 grams) cocoa powder
1 cup (200 grams) granulated white sugar
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
3 large eggs
3/4 cup (95 grams) all-purpose flour
1/4 teaspoon salt
3/4 cup (125 grams) semi-sweet chocolate chips (optional)

Brownies: Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (177 degrees C) and place the rack in the center of the oven. Butter (or spray with a nonstick cooking spray) an 8 inch (20 cm) square pan.

Melt the chocolate and butter in a large stainless steel bowl placed over a saucepan of simmering water. Remove from heat and stir in the cocoa powder and sugar . Next, whisk in the vanilla extract and eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Finally, stir in the flour, salt and chocolate chips (if using).

Pour into the prepared pan and bake for about 30 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out with a little batter and a few moist clumps clinging to it. Do not over bake. Remove from oven and let cool on a wire rack. Serve at room temperature or chilled. These freeze very well.

Makes 16 brownies.