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Wiggle Waggle Loop de Loo…

(originally written March 2010)

My sweet little baby doll, Mackenzie, is just a few days away from being 10 months old. We have accomplished a word – “uh-oh”, she has 2 bottom middle teeth making an entrance and she can scoot in a sitting position anywhere. Her favorite book to read with me is “Wiggle Waggle Loop-de-Loo.” She laughs through the whole book. Its safe to say she loves it!

This morning when I came into the living room, she had inched over near the book and looked up at me smiling, as if requesting to read it. I almost walked by and continued with my agenda. But, I stopped. Almost audibly I heard a voice say, “Seize the moment…” We read the book through several times to the music of my baby’s giggles. I have labeled this memory and filed it away for the “long term” folder.

It seems that my life is passing by as a series of opportunities. Sometimes I miss them they rush by so quickly, once in a while I’m able to make the most of them.

Recently we had new neighbors move into the house across the street. At the time, I was thrilled and asked the Lord to help us reach out to them. That was my sincere prayer… and He is answering in a series of opportunities.

Yesterday, my husband arrived home from work, we ate dinner quickly and he went outside to work on a “house” project before the daylight faded. I stayed inside while Mackenzie took her evening nap. As I sat in the living room, I heard some laughing outside. When I looked out the window – I saw my husband had abandoned his project. He and Emily, along with the dad from across the street were helping our new neighbors learn to ride our extra bicycles. Michael had seized the moment.

So often I am not good at seizing. I’m good at planning and sticking with the plan. I don’t do well with change at the drop of a hat… But, God is working to make my rigid heart pliable with these opportunities. Its in every day situations – with my own children, with my neighbors, with friends and on and on the list goes.

For me, its giving up my control and letting Him whisper to me – following His lead with quick obedience. When He gives me a chance to be “Jesus” to those around me, I can no longer choose the other – I must choose to dig in, I must seize the moment. And I must, no matter how out of character it is for me, no matter how far out of my comfort zone it is.

I’m reminded of one of my favorite verses :

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

Dear heavenly Father, Help me to remember that You have created me and that you have a very special work for me to do. Please, let me hear your voice and obey right away.

Here is your fair warning : If you call and I don’t catch the phone the first time around, just know this- I may be doing something else important, something unplanned, something requiring my instantaneous attention. I just might be reading “Wiggle Waggle Loop de Loo!”

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The Best Version…

Wednesday morning started as every morning should:  as smooth as creamy jif, spread on a piece of warm toast.  Yes, it was lovely.  Breakfast was done, with the dishes cleaned up.  Bread dough was resting on the counter, almost ready to bake. Everyone was dressed without major complications and Emily had completed the best round of math lessons ever.

I whisked my basket of laundry down the stairs to my washer, while my children were playing quietly together, thinking that today may be the day I would claim my rightful title of Super Mom.  As I tossed in the clothes and started the machine, the gush of water slowed to a trickle, to a drip or two, to nothing.  What?

I took the stairs two at a time, back to the kitchen…  I flipped on the faucet …nothing.  My precious daughter, from her bedroom said, “Mommy, there’s a man in our front yard doing something.”  This is where my morning took a turn for the worse.

I flew back down the stairs and burst out the garage door.  And I said in a loud voice, I suppose that could only be described as shrieking, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?!?!?”

The gentleman from the water company politely replied, “Turning off your water.”

“WHY?”

He said simply, “No payment.”

With those words, I begged (or possibly commanded) him not to leave.  I hurried back up the stairs to our room where I found the water bill, towards the back of the stack.  Final due date: yesterday.   I grabbed the checkbook, swallowed a huge dose of humble on the way out the front door, hoping he would take my payment and turn the water on before leaving.  And thankfully, in spite of my angry demeanor, he took my money and turned on my water.

As I turned to come in, I realized there was no hope of claiming that “Super Mom” title today.  I had presented the worst version of myself.  Definitely NOT Super Mom type of behavior.

I come from a long line of over reactors.  Even my dad and my sister would vouch for me on this point, but its no excuse.  My hostile temper broke through my facade, what I think of as the best version of myself – and reared its ugly head.  Admittedly, I have a temper.  When things go wrong, especially if I’m the cause (like forgetting to pay the water bill) I loose it for this reason : I really want to believe in that best version of me and that it is good enough….

One of our pastors taught us a while back something I will never forget:  “You are far worse off than you ever imagined.  But far more loved than you’ve ever dreamed.”

With another failure under my belt, I realize just how true this is.  No matter how sinful I am, I will probably never understand the depths of my own condition.  But He does and He loves me with a promise of forgiveness and  a fresh start.

The Best version of me is the forgiven version.  Its the one that gets up each morning, claiming His mercies for the day.  Survival is living surrounded by the love of my Heavenly Father.   And that is life far beyond my wildest dreams.

So, maybe tomorrow… then I’ll be able to present that best version.

Lamentations 3:21-23

This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope.  It is of the LORD’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.  They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.

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storm

Today we’ve experienced a bit of uneasiness at our house.  We’ve had some windy, rainy weather- with possible tornados.  My daughter, Emily gets a little bit nervous when situations like this come up, so there was a lot of watching the sky – waiting for things to get ugly.No matter how old I get, there is something just a bit unnerving about waiting for  a tornado to drop in any minute.

I can remember my first tornado experience.  I was probably 5 or so, living with my family in Danville, IL.  We waited it out in the basement – I was terrified at the time. The next day I found there was reason for my fear.  Riding in the car with my mom to church, we saw things strewn around from peoples homes – a mattress from someone’s bed was on the side of the road. and it looked like maybe the contents of their dresser drawers had been scattered everywhere.

Today as we waited for the bad weather to pass, I tried to comfort my frightened girl. But the truth is – I couldn’t make any valid promises – and she knew it.  I don’t control the weather , good or bad, and she is quite aware of that fact.

I had my own mini storm of sorts last week.  The kind that doesn’t amount to anything in the long run, but it was enough to make me think.  enough to get my insides twisted into knots.  I was reminded of something then, and again today.

This storm is not mine.  Its His.  He controls the winds and the rain.  I can not change the circumstances.  I can only change my response.  In the midst of questions, fears, frustrations all I can do is surrender to the one who owns it.

When I am able to move into a posture of complete surrender, which by my humble definition is : believing that He is the one in control, that He is continually working things for my good, that I can trust Him and believe His Word – its then that I am able to praise Him through the roughest of storms.

His promise from Isaiah 41:10 is real: “So do not fear for I am with you, do not be dismayed for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for Your promises – for your presence, your strength, your help.  There is no where I would rather be than in the palm of  your righteous right hand.  May my heart give You praise in the midst of it all.  amen.

There’s an old hymn that I remember singing in church when I was young – and it seems more than appropriate for a day like today.

Till the Storm Passes By

In the dark of the midnight,
Have I oft hid my face;
While the storm howls above me,
And there’s no hiding place;
‘Mid the crash of the thunder,
Precious Lord, hear my cry;
“Keep me safe ’til the storm passes by.”

When the long night has ended,
And the storms come no more,
Let me stand in Thy presence.
On that bright, peaceful shore.
In that land where the tempest
Never comes, Lord may I
Dwell with Thee when the storm passes by.

‘Til the storm passes over,
‘Til the thunder sounds no more;
‘Til the clouds roll forever from the sky,
Hold me fast, let me stand,
In the hollow of Thy hand;
Keep me safe ’til the storm passes by.

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Who’s your daddy?

About a year ago now, my husband’s family received astonishing news.  They had relatives in France.  Without reviewing all of the details, as each chapter of this story has unfolded, we have seen the hand of God.   There is a man in France, named Jean who is related to us – and by the grace of God, he found Michael’s dad.  Now Michael’s dad has been able to help him learn more about their common relative. Until last year, Jean had very little knowledge of his own dad.

Because of modern technology they have been able to ichat once.  And, Michael’s dad has been able to ichat regularly with Maud, our french cousin.  Its all quite glorious  helping them fit the pieces of their life’s puzzle together.    Imagine!  Never knowing your father.  I have no idea what its like.

I’ve always known my dad.  He’s been very present in my life from my birth, right up until now.  I can tell you a lot about my dad.   For instance I know he doesn’t like peanut butter in his dessert.  No peanut butter cups for dad.  I also know he is an avid St.Louis Cardinals fan.  I’ve experienced Disney World three times with my dad: once when I was 6, when I was 18 and recently when I was 33.  I’ve watched him play church softball, and I’ve prayed for Him in the moments just after his heart attack.  He’s a man of integrity and he is a phenomenal husband, dad and pastor.  This is just the tip of the iceberg…

I can’t fathom not knowing my dad.   He’s the one who introduced me to my Heavenly Father.   I became a believer at a young age and He has been a part of my life ever since.  What would life be like without Him?

I’d like to tell you that I know Him really well… and sometimes I think I do.  I know the accounts of His miracles from Scripture.  I can list His attributes.  But, often (far too often)  I don’t actually take into account who He is in my daily life.

This is how I noticed it today.  Our french relatives may come for a visit within the next year or so.  Since I’m the one who is half canadian, who took french in elementary school, and high school and college, it stands to reason that I would brush up my skills and get back a bit of my vocabulary.  But I’m procrastinating.  I have borrowed a Rosetta Stone french curriculum from a friend – and it is sitting prettily in the corner of my bedroom closet.    Why, you ask?

Because I’ve forgotten who my heavenly Father is.

I know He parted the Red Sea, and His Son fed the 5000 with 5 loaves and 2 fish.  I absolutely believe in those miracles.  But, I’m not confident that he can work a miracle that involves me remembering how to ask things like, “What time is it?” in french.  Sometimes I think its easier to believe He can do earth shattering things rather than simple little things…

But He promises to help us accomplish the things He’s called us to do.  Paul knew it was true in Philippians 4 when he confessed:

“I can do all things through Him ho gives me strength.”

In this case, I have to believe that by the power of the Holy Spirit, I will be able to  revive all of that french that is shoved away in the far corners of my brain.  And, by counting on who my Heavenly Father  is and what He can do, I might be able to help Jean learn more about his Father.

Heavenly Father,  Thank you for your promises that I find in your Word.  Help me learn to rely on them more.  Let your gift of faith swell in my heart, overriding my fears.  And when a miracle occurs – when those french words roll off my tongue – I pray that You alone will be glorified!  amen.

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banana bread catastrophe

I am saying a prayer for my banana bread right now.  Its in the oven.  In the wrong size pan.  Not on purpose, of course, but I have a feeling its not going to be pretty.

I skimmed the directions and put the batter together quickly.  It said bundt pan, so, that’s what I did.  Now, I know better.  My bundt pan holds a smaller quantity than most, but I thought it looked okay, so I went ahead and didn’t bother to read the fine print on the instructions.   And now what?

Pretty ridiculous for someone who has baked many  loaves of banana bread.  I’m slightly disappointed, but mostly disgusted with myself.  In a perfect banana bread kind of world I would have thoroughly read the directions before I ever started.

And they say men are bad about not reading the instructions…

Truthfully, I tend to live a lot of my life this way.  I barge ahead and do what I’d like, however I’d like.  And then, at the end of the day, I find myself begging the Creator of the Universe to step in and make things right, hoping I haven’t completely made a mess of things.  If only I’d slow down and read His instructions.

Having grown up a Pastor’s daughter, in church every time the doors were open, I have a tendency towards a know it all complex – I think I’ve got it all covered and don’t need to listen for His voice or read His words.  But that is so far from the truth; every day I need Him more than ever.  And the more I learn from Him, the more I realize I don’t know.

Psalm 19:7-8

“The law of the LORD is perfect,
reviving the soul.
The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy,
making wise the simple.

The precepts of the LORD are right,
giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the LORD are radiant,
giving light to the eyes.”

I love His promises:  as I follow His directions, I will find joy, peace and wisdom for my life.  I can trust where He is leading.

Oh Heavenly Father!  Help me to rely more on you and less on me.  Keep me close to You, reading the Scripture, listening for your thoughts.   Let me know the joy of slowing down and following, rather than doing things my way…  amen.

(And just in case you’re wondering…  He did move Heaven and earth on my behalf – the banana bread batter did not boil over into the bottom of my oven.  It turned out quite nicely.  And in fact, I have found a delicious recipe that I will make again and again – most likely in my larger tube pan!)

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growing pains…

Yesterday morning my sweet girl had her archery lesson.  She did really well, in this proud mama’s opinion, and was very excited.  Last evening when we got home, though, she had a bit of a pain down her side.  She asked me what it was – and I told her – it was probably a growing pain, or maybe from shooting her bow a lot.  So we did the only thing to be done, in order to cure this particular side pain.  I prescribed a cup of hot chocolate and a bit of time together, sitting and chatting.

We talked about the pain in her side, that it meant she was probably growing, or her muscles were burning because she had used them so much today.  Either way, she was getting bigger and stronger.  I can see she’s having other growing pains as well.

Just a few days ago she came in from playing outside with our neighbors.  I could tell that something wasn’t right, her eyes were cloudy and her countenance was fallen just a bit.  She began to relay the situation in which she felt like maybe she had said something unkind and hurt her friend.  She asked what she should do.  And I told her – she needed to apologize.  After a bit of hemming and hawing, my sweet girl, bravely put on her shoes and went  to make things right with her friend.

As a believer, the only way to strengthen my faith is to feel the burn; this is usually obedience to God’s word –  often its painful, but the result is an emboldened, courageous faith.  I watched my daughter’s growing pains in action as she walked out my front door…  and wondered…  is this the kind of faith I have?  Willing to keep moving through the pain in order to be a stronger, more fit believer?   I don’t like these thoughts because I don’t like pain.  I don’t embrace the uncomfortable parts of my life.  I try to get away from them.

Hebrews talks a lot about faith, reviewing so many different stories of struggle and trials that end in amazing ways – but they all have the common thread of faith.  The writer in Hebrews 12 describes what our faith in action should look like:

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”

I am thankful that he is building faith in my life and in my daughter’s.  I am hopeful that we will continue walking through our growing pains together.

Lord,

Thank you for this gift of faith.  Let me view the hard places in my life as a gift as well ; give me the strength to walk through them in obedience rather than walking away from them.  Help me to live in a way that pleases you.  amen.

Hebrews 11:6 – But without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

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Seasons…

Fall is my favorite season.  I love the weather, the colors.  Fresh air and open windows.  Jack-o-lanterns on the front porch, and hot apple cider.  There is nothing better than a walk on a cool fall night that requires a sweater and a warm hand to hold.

I met my husband in the fall – that’s probably why I like it so well.  We were married in September.  My birthday is in October.  My first-born came into this world in November.  Autumn holds many good things for me – I suppose that’s why I’m so nostalgic at this time of year.

One of my favorite memories is of Michael and I.  It was November and we hadn’t been dating too long.  We drove up the W road in his little silver Ford, with the windows down, the breezes blowing and the music from Bela Fleck’s album drive playing.  I was trying to understand his bluegrass music.  He was trying to hold my hand.   Ahhhh romance.   But, we were young and loving life.  Oh it was so much fun…

Little did I know the change that was coming…  a wonderful, exciting, crazy life was in store.  If I had known it all at once, I probably would have passed out for days, or run away.  Now, quite a few years later, I can look back and see what has come to pass so far; an amazing life, orchestrated by an incredible conductor.

For now, as I wander through this fall of 2010, and see the colors of the leaves changing, I find myself wondering…  “What changes are coming Lord?  What do you have in store for my precious little family?”  Because I know, seasons mean change…  it won’t be October forever.

Its simple, but promising in so many ways…

“Jesus Christ, the same, yesterday today and forever.”

I find myself needing these words to penetrate my heart, today more than yesterday.  As my seasons come and go, as I find circumstances changing faster than I’d like, I can remain firmly established because of those words.   It doesn’t mean I’ll appreciate the new better than the old.  It certainly doesn’t mean life will be just how I like it.  But it does mean that He is unchanging in His goodness, His mercy and His love.    As fall passes and winter approaches, I know he will be with me through it all.

Heavenly Father,

I thank you for all of the changes that have come into my life.  And more, I thank you for walking with me through each one.  Help me to be steadfast in your love, no matter what the future holds.    amen

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the splitzie

I’ve been reminiscing a lot over the past few weeks.  The memories I have from my childhood summers are so brilliant and vivid, I can’t hide from them.  They follow me.  They pester.  They make me laugh.  They reveal who I am.

So, there’s a particular recurring event that happened each evening – and I can’t help but share it with you…  it was our bedtime snack.  Better known at my GG’s house as the splitzie.  For my sister and I it was a favorite part of the day.  Our splitzie was a package of snowballs, a culinary delight made by Hostess, that we shared.  one each.  And just in case you don’t know a snowball is chocolate cake, filled with white cream, covered with a layer of marshmallow and rolled in coconut.  my mouth is watering now.

The bedtime snack had been named long before – my dad and my uncles, long before our time had also shared a splitzie at bedtime.  It was natural that Marilyn and I would continue on the tradition.   Recently she texted me to say that her husband had just brought home a whole grocery bag of snowballs “for the kids”.    If she really loved me, she would send me one.

These days we don’t share snowballs.  I mean, its not possible…  she’s more than 8 hours away.  But we do splitzie other things.  Just to be clear, my definition of spliztie is fairly simple: to give a portion of something to someone so that you can share it together.

Recently my sister and I have been splitzy-ing a lot.  And while its been difficult in some ways, its been as delightful as a snowball as well.  We get to talk and email and text a lot.  She has been willing to split some of my burdens with me.  When I have something that is too heavy on my own, she is there and we chat and I know she prays for me.  It makes the whole thing a lot easier to know she’ll go splitzies with me.

And really this is how I believe we find Christ’s love in action.  I find that He is there for me, able to bear the burden with me, even for me, through my sister’s love and willingness.  And, I believe its how He tangibly ministers to me today – through others’ obedience to Him, loving one another, bearing each others burdens.

from 1 John:

Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well. This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands. This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.

I am so thankful for His work in my life, for others who are willing to share in my journey – and the love that He provides through a splitzie!

amen.

md

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Blessed…

(Posting this today, celebrating my first month blogging…  originally written May 21st… )

Many things today have moved my heart to a place of gratitude. A video, a picture, a few memories – all have set my posture towards thanksgiving. I am overjoyed at the good things in my life. Laughter and tears have come all at once, blended together bringing hallelujahs!

 

There are times when I focus on the difficult, the impossible, the sadness, the illness, anything other than what seems good. I bristle, sometimes even curse the dark times. How can anything of this nature be a blessing?

 

To call Him blessed or rejoice inside of tribulation does not necessarily jive with the world’s idea of “blessed” or “blessings” – but it is His definition. There is a song, taken from Scripture, that calls on us to Bless his Name whether we are walking thru sorrow or happiness, that He is a good God in famine and plenty, in health or sickness. This idea shoots like an arrow right to the center of my heart and speaks loudly to me in the midst of my hallelujahs.

 

The blessing, clearly is not the circumstance but, that He is at work in my life.

 

With the life that I have, I am constantly tempted to give thanks only for the goodness. That would be easy because I live a very spoiled life. When there is suffering, I mourn, throw a pity party and then move on. Its probably my human nature, but it is how I have lived life.

 

I’m making a conscious effort today to try to view things differently. To choose a heart of thanksgiving regardless of circumstances seems like a lofty goal, maybe too idealistic, but I have to try. Can I truly bless His name in the midst of trials?

 

Job did it: (from Job 1)

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said:

“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,

and naked I will depart.

The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away;

may the name of the LORD be praised.”

 

Dear Lord,

You have chosen me for a season of goodness right now. Your precious gifts to me are plentiful, even countless. Let me remember to live with a heart of gratefulness whether you give or take away. Blessed be your name at all times!

Amen and amen!

 

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chocolate chip blessings…

I was prepared this morning, or so I thought.  Last evening was a bit rough – all three kids had fevers when I checked around 6 pm – and still when they went to bed.  I should have known because they all had pretty rough moments yesterday being grumpy and the like.  So, at 9 o’clock I called the people we had activities planned with for the day and cancelled.

I have to say I was bummed.  I look forward to our fun days out of the house and I felt like it was stolen out from under us.  No fun piano lessons or science co-op.  Nope, just home.  and Sound of Music, because that’s what my kids want to watch over and over again right now.

Everyone was up bright and early and so I got up. My plan had been to make chocolate chip pancakes.  I thought it would at least cheer Emily up since she’d be missing out on our previously fun day.  But as I got up and moving I felt the long day of whining and grumpies looming out in front of me;  it was almost more than I could bear.  I felt my disappointment well up in my heart and all of my energy drain right out of the tips of my toes.  Even though I mentally had been prepared, I felt the desire to crawl back in bed and forget the pancakes.

But I didn’t.  I moved into the kitchen and got things rolling.  I mixed up the batter and added in the chocolate chips and they were bountiful.  After all, if you’re gonna make chocolate chip pancakes, you might as well do it right!  The first batch were on the griddle when I looked down at them.

It was as if I heard Him say,  ” I have blessed you beyond the number of these chocolate chips, here in your pancakes… Even if today is not what You had in mind, it is still good.  I have been good to you.”  And I began to count, and number all of the good things in my life.   I felt the sadness slip away, with hope beginning to swell in my heart.  It was a beautiful moment in the presence of my Heavenly Father.  Chocolate chip blessings…

Psalms 27:13-14 encouraged me even further this morning:

I am still confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the LORD
in the land of the living.

Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.

Oh Heavenly Father,

Keep me vigilant, focused on your goodness.  In the difficult moments that today may bring, help me to revel in your love and provision. Let my heart and mind remain in the perfect peace that only you can give!  amen