I have a memory of my mom teaching my sister and I a verse from Ephesians. We were very young, it may even be the first Scripture that I ever memorized, likely because my mom had to say it to us so much. This is the verse:
“Be ye kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32.
I can still hear my mom’s voice saying the words. Recently I thought about quoting it to my own children, who needed to change their patterns of interacting. They were fighting. Yes, that’s right, they were not getting along and I considered tossing it out there.
But, I realized I don’t know it well enough.
(For my readers: You need to know that what I’m about to say, whether you know me and interact with me on a regular basis, or just read the blog, this is not about you. Simply put, this is what the Lord said to me today.)
Now, where was I? Oh yes. He actually whispered to me, “You probably need to be a better example on this count, don’t you think?” It would be much easier if the verse was about being kind when its easy. But its not. Its about treating those who have hurt you with kindness and forgiveness. I am far too self centered to be good at it. He began quietly and gently. I winced. This was going to be painful. These were just a few of His suggestions:
Be kind when… a friend blows you off for something or someone else.
Be kind when… your husband forgets an important date.
Be kind when… your child is deliberately defiant and you need to give discipline.
Be kind when… someone expects a favor, even though they’ve spoken badly about you behind your back.
Be kind when… a girlfriend you trust, tells someone else.
Be kind when… you find yourself at the end of your rope and are struggling to hang on.
Be kind when… your child says hurtful words in moments of anger.
Be kind when… you’re left out.
Be kind when… a rock and a hard place seem like the only options.
Be kind when… there are damaging words said that wound your spirit.
Be kind when… it seems crazy.
All of these thoughts need me to pause and think. and pray.
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Heavenly Father, I long to be the kind hearted, loving person that you desire for me to be. Will you help me? Deep down I know I am selfish and I become hard hearted when I am offended or wounded. Soften my heart so that I am able to show your loving kindness to those around me, even if its difficult. Thank you for the forgiveness I have experienced because of your son, Jesus’ death and resurrection. And thank you for loving me enough to remind me. I love you. amen.
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